Why do we feel deprived?


Do you ever feel deprived?

Money is tight for us right now and even a simple grocery shopping trip makes me depressed. Always having to buy the store generic, go without, put stuff back, etc.  Seems to be the norm these days.

Sound familiar?

Well I was thinking this morning...my grandmother, Alice, passed away last year suddenly. I talked to her one day, and a week later she suffered from a massive stroke. The one thing that stands out in my mind about this woman was her frugality. She's a child from the great depression. When my parents came to visit last month, they brought some items that I wanted that were hers (crochet stuff, cookbooks, her sewing basket, etc). I was looking through her sewing basket and it cracked me up. The amount of containers she reused. You know those international delight coffee rectangular containers? She had a ton of them that held buttons in one, ribbon in another, etc. She didn't have special organizing containers for that! It was actually pretty cool to see since they were really old and definitely don't look the same anymore.

This woman was frugal until the day she died. Only as she aged did she finally get herself a dryer. When she was a young housewife, she hid money away and saved for YEARS, and then out of no where (not even telling her own husband) she put an extension on the house (boy was my grandfather surprised when he got home! lol! I wish I was there for that!).

Very rarely did I ever see her by anything new. She got good quality stuff when she needed it and made everything last for years. If you wanted advice on how to be frugal, she's the one to talk to.

There is one thing that I never thought about until now with her. SHE NEVER FELT DEPRIVED. It didn't bother her to go without. She didn't find a need for many of the modern things. She only got a cell phone once her elderly mother lived with her, and if my grandmother was out, she wanted her mother to be able to reach her. The only way she had a VCR and then a DVD player was because my dad would get her that stuff like that for her birthday or Christmas. She just couldn't care less. In fact, she thought people were foolish with how they spent money.

I keep pens and crayons (I use them as highlighters) in an old crystal light container and use them for when I spend time in the Word. Just this morning as I was finishing up 1 Corinthians, I grabbed for a pen and this feeling of deprivation came over me. Why? Because I was using a crystal light container and not some pretty container. REALLY? ARE YOU KIDDING ME?

I need to get over myself!!!....and QUICKLY!!

Do any of you deal with this craziness?

If you live in a house with running water, plumbing, electricity, doors that lock, and food in the fridge (whether it's generic or not!), you are blessed! I am blessed. I get mad at my son when we buy him something and only after a few days it's no longer "new" and he wants something else. But I do the same thing! Yay! I got a new skein of yarn. I start crocheting with it and then wish I had another color. I buy a few plastic drawer organizers and now wish I had another type of organizational thing. I get cable TV and then want the bigger packages. I get one book in a series, and then I want them all. I get a new eye shadow, and then want another color to go along with it. This needs to stop!!! Pray for me and I'll pray for you!! lol!

Please tell me I'm not the only one who deals with this!!


Linked to: lowercase letters, The Better Mom, What Joy is Mine, A Mama's Story, From My Mountain View

14 comments:

Jaimie said...

Some days I'm definitely with you there, Angell.

It would be nice to buy whatever I wanted at the grocery store, instead of just what we really needed.

I'd love, for once, to get myself some clothes from a department store instead of only ever from second-hand ones (or Walmart on occasion!).

I would REALLY love to buy my husband a brand-new computer.

I'd love a bigger apartment. Or a house. With a yard. So we could have a dog.

But then...I realize how blessed I am.
And that, you know what, I have SO MUCH to be thankful for!!
When I start listing off my blessings, I realize that I can be content.
Because I have what I NEED. And I even have WAY more than what I need.
Plus...the things that matter most? Those don't come in a store. I can't use any amount of money to get them.
I am saved, forgiven, and loved by the Creator of the universe.
I have the hope of eternal life.
I have an amazing husband who loves me more than I can imagine.
I have amazing family and friends.

I have a beautiful home! With so many lovely things in it! And we eat such good food! No, it's nothing fancy...and it's ALL store-brand...;) but it's good!

I'm sitting at a hand-me-down desk, using a hand-me-down computer that's six years old, and my papers and pencils are in cereal boxes and a pringles container covered with brown paper.
It works.
I'm blessed.
I'm thankful.

A Godly Homemaker said...

oh yes, I suffer from this too! and I need to get over myself!!!
visiting from Manic Mondays

fanta4two said...

Glad to hear I'm not alone.
Sometimes I wish people like you were just a hop and a skip away from me. I'd come have some fanta with you and a warm molasses cookie :) and we could comiserate, then pray and let God lead the way while we strive to focus on the positives!

I'm visiting you from whatjoyismine and so glad I surfed on in.

May God bless you, my sister in Christ, and give us both strength to carry the right perspectives.

Thanks for trying so hard to keep your attitude in check. I found that to be a challenge I need to take upon myself more often!

Patty from www.fanta4two.com

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

Thanks Jaimie and A Godly Homemaker. At least I know I'm not the only one!

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

Fanta4two - thanks for visiting!

I sooo understand. I meet so many great women online...I just wish we could meet in person!!


On my way to your blog :-)

HollyOrganizer said...

Amen Angell! Although there are many issues I struggle with, thankfully this is not one of them. Maybe it's because as an organizer I don't like all the physical clutter. And I like the emotional clutter even less. It's not easy at first but we certainly can create a PURPOSEFUL attitude of gratitude that becomes habit... ergo "Habitude!" Thank you Lord for letting us know we DO have control over our thoughts. Amen!

Alyssa said...

LOVE this post!! You are not the only one!! I'm dealing with this myself right now! I'm somewhat relieved to know I'm not alone!

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

Holly - I hear you about the clutter. Our basement is filled with boxes of stuff that I need to organize. We seem to have always lived in a place that was too small for us (we lived with my parents, in my bedroom with 2 kids and had our stuff in storage. we moved to Ohio and the apartment was a lot smaller than expected so we had to rent a garage.) Now we live in a decent size house but has horrible storage. And since I have no plans on ever moving again, I need to work on the boxes and clutter. I want to wait until my kids are both in school before I really tackle the basement.

Alyssa - I'm slowly learning that putting my own faults out there seem to help other people. If people were just honest, no one would have these problems!! lol

A Mamas Story said...

What a timely post! We've spoken a lot about being grateful, content, and joyful about the things God has blessed us with. Thanks for sharing!

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

Thanks for visiting and commenting!!

I have been dealing with being grateful a lot recently!! It can be hard at times!!!

The Momma said...

I am right there with you. I often notice the lack of this quality in my children and become frustrated. Maybe they are only following my example? yikes!

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

I wonder the same things!!!

Emily Cook said...

Of course I deal with this! I think we all do! It is so irritating when I see it in my kids- but then I see it in myself too and ARRRGGGHHHH!!!

All we can do is pray:
God, teach me gratitude!

He will change our hearts- beating them up ourselves isn't going to fix anything! So glad for His grace!
Emily
www.weakandloved.com

Angell @ Passionate and Creative Homemaking said...

Emily - I too hate when I see it in my kids.

It must be the same way God sees it in me!

Thanks for visiting and commenting!