I’m annoyed and I need to vent a little bit here…maybe some can relate. I’m a mom with young children and I just want to scream WHERE ARE THESE SUPPOSED TITUS 2 WOMEN? We’re supposed to have older women who encourage us, comfort us, lift us up as wives and mothers, teach us about being a homemaker, and on and on.
But all I see is judgment, finger pointing and ignorant statements. I see older women who do nothing but judge moms with statements like “well, that wouldn’t be allowed back in our days.” Really? Well back in your days you hit kids with a belt! You know what happens if you do that NOW???? You get ARRESTED!! Ever have statements like that? Let me tell you something “older” people…parenting in this generation is harder than it ever has been! Cut us some slack and zip your judgmental lips!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes I think they forget what it’s like having small kids. Have you ever had your kids screaming at a store and you get some old woman telling you “you’re going to miss this?” Really? I want to say to them…”Miss this? No, you’re going to miss your left eye after I shove my pen in it!!” What ignorance! It’s one thing to tell a mom that they are going to miss the kids while they are young…don’t tell them when they are ready to have a melt down!
My youngest has stressed me out the past few days so much that it has been making me physically ill. I’m ready to breakdown, I have chest pains, I haven’t been getting any sleep, I can’t get anything done, I can’t escape since I have no car…oh and I have pinkeye to top it off!
I’m not pointing fingers, but I have to say something. I was trying to be funny and have other moms who could relate reply. You know…sometimes us moms need a few “I understand…I’ve been there” kinda statements. I posted on facebook about how technology fails us when we need it most. The past week my youngest hasn’t been sleeping well. When he gets congested he turns into a nightmare! Well the farmers around our home and neighborhood have been doing a lot of work in the field and that throws dust around. We’re struggling with allergies and he is no different. It’s worse at night and I haven’t gotten much sleep because of his restlessness…oh and from his SCREAMING. I’m talking he gets MAD. So I was trying to put a youtube lullaby video that calms him down and it wouldn’t stop buffering. When I tried to put another video that he loves that’s on On Demand, all of a sudden our On Demand doesn’t work. And here he is…still screaming his head off (all over a stuffy nose!!) So instead of getting understanding moms, I get 2 older women who make comments that, at first I took with a grain of salt, but then as the more I thought about it, made me really angry (I have deleted it so don’t waste your time looking for it). One accused me of using technology as a babysitter and the other gave me advice that worked on their dog! What?
Which is what led to this post. I’m tired of these older women having no clue about being a mom with small kids. It’s like they don’t remember how HARD it was. My own grandmother doesn't get it! I won’t even talk to her about it. But then again, they practically abused their kids back in those days. And kids were seen and not heard!
So, if you’re an older woman, before you open your mouth, stop and try to see where the mother is coming from. Oh, and try to remember what it was like when you got no sleep due to the kids. Back when you were walking into walls because you were so sleep deprived…when you still had a house to clean and food to cook, and people to take care of…all on less than a few hours of sleep!!!!!!!!
STOP JUDGING US AND HELP US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
STOP TELLING US WHAT WE’RE DOING WRONG AND SPEAK SOMETHING ENCOURAGING TO US!!!
STOP TELLING US WE’RE GOING TO MISS THIS AND TELL US A CRAZY STORY THAT YOU WENT THROUGH!!!!!!!!!
STOP GIVING US DIRTY LOOKS AND TELL US IT WILL GET BETTER!!!!!!
AND TRY TO REMEMBER WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR YOU!!!
I am just so fed up with people right now, I can’t even see straight…and they are all Christians which makes it worse. Encouraging people is becoming rare and judgment is becoming the norm.
Makes me sick!